Being a good prostitute
This is a preface to a piece I am hoping to have finished sometime soon about being good at sex. Here I’d like to talk about what it might mean for a prostitute to be good at her job. I think it might be helpful to get this out first and I’ll see how I go with thinking about being “good at sex”.
I think that for prostitutes, being “good at sex” is often equated with being good at our job. I think there can be quite a difference. So to start with, I’ll throw some ideas out there as to what it might mean for a prostitute to be good at her job:
- She should be a good communicator; it is essential to be able to find out what a client wants, otherwise it’s highly unlikely that they’re going to get what they want. This is not only verbal communication of course, physical communication and paying attention to non-verbal signals is often just as important.
- She should be very clear from the outset about her rules. While I think it is the client’s responsibility to find out if the prostitute he’d like to see offers the particular service(s) that he’s after, in some cases I’ll grant that’s not easy to do and some clients just don’t even think to do so.
- She should do what she can to give the client a good time. This one encompasses quite a lot:
- Be nice! It can be hard to do, especially when you’re having a bad day and really don’t feel like being at work, but so long as it’s not the client’s fault, don’t let it out on them. An exception to this: if they’re being a bastard, refusing to obey your rules, are being rude and obnoxious and pretty much everything you don’t want in a client, it’s not always necessary to be nice. Or to give them a good time. But I’ll write about turning into a feisty bitch another day.
- She should either enjoy herself or convincingly pretend that she’s enjoying herself. If you’re having sex with someone you don’t really want to them to think you’re going over your grocery shopping list in your head (even if you are). Smile, show some signs of enjoyment and pleasure such as squirming around, moaning or even saying something about enjoying it.
- Put in a bit of effort. Whether you’re giving a massage, blow job, hand job, kissing, playing starfish or anything else, do it well! To be good at any profession you need to put in a bit of effort. Sex work is no different.
- She should put some effort into her appearance and (I take it as a given, but include it just in case) personal hygiene. Personal hygiene is simple things like having a shower in between clients and washing your hands at appropriate times. Appearance could be debatable, but I would argue that the sex industry is very much an appearance focused industry. To do well (and so, one could argue, to be good at your job) it is a good idea to wear something appropriate (something that makes you look hot), have your nails nicely done, shave/wax armpits and legs, do your hair nicely (but make it practical, especially if you’re busy!), wear some make up and perfume. To a certain extent it could be advisable to aspire to a mainstream view of feminine beauty, because that’s most likely to get you the most work.
That’s all I’ve got for now, but if you think there’s something I’ve left out, or something you disagree with, please leave a comment. Whether you’ve seen a prostitute, are a prostitute or are merely using your imagination, feel free to let me know what you think.
