Disclaimer

I like to generalise.  So much so that I sometimes do so without noticing.  So here’s an important note:

Everything I say about sex work comes from my experience only.  I have not talked to very many people within the industry, some of those I have talked to may well have been talking bullshit.  When I make a general statement about sex work, please do not forget that my experience is not universal.  My experience involves adult (over 18) consensual (and legal!) prostitution in New Zealand only.  My experience is very much limited by the (relatively) short amount of time I have spent working and my opinions about it (and other things) are opinions only, feel free to contest them (that’s what comments are for!) but do not assume I am talking about something other than myself and my own experiences unless I clearly state otherwise.

For example, if I were to say that prostitution is completely ethical, I would like it to be assumed that I mean that adult (18+) consensual, legal prostitution as I have experienced it (in New Zealand) is completely ethical.  The sort where a whore is free to choose whether or not they want to see a client and free to change their mind at any time and free to come and go within the industry as they please, etc.  I am not talking about child prostitution (which may or may not in effect be child sex slavery) in some other random parts of the world, where the money is payed to god knows who (but not the one providing the sexual services) and it’s very obviously not ethical at all.

Another common generalisation I’d like to excuse now is that of the female prostitute and male client.  I know there are male prostitutes and female clients, but again, this blog reflects my experience and in my world of work there are female prostitutes and (so far) no female clients.  Plus it’s easier using a single (male or female) pronoun rather than having to write “they” or “he or she” or “(s)he”, etc.

Just wanted to be completely clear on that.